A person’s household grew divided after his older brother requested him to ban alcohol from his Christmas celebrations to accommodate his new girlfriend.
In a post on Reddit’s Am I the A——? discussion board, the person wrote that he and his spouse sometimes host their households over the Christmas vacation. They’ve a big, multicultural household and welcome greater than 50 folks “out and in” of their home on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.
“There’s a number of mixing of cultures as a result of who doesn’t need tequila and tamales,” he wrote. “I’m usually gifted drinks, and my spouse likes wine.”
This yr, nevertheless, the vacation plans hit a snag attributable to his older brother Mike’s new relationship. Mike is relationship a girl, Jenny, who has three youngsters whom the OP (unique poster) and his spouse “solely met briefly over the summer season.” The youngsters are “not allowed round individuals who drink.”
Due to that, Mike requested his brother to “ban all alcohol at Christmas” from his home.
“My mom backs him up, saying it’s pointless to have all these [adults] round youngsters regardless that I’ve 2 of my very own and my youngsters love the loud, bustling home at Christmas and taking part in with their cousins,” the OP wrote.
He added that there are not any different youngsters on his aspect of the household and he doesn’t need to change his vacation traditions to accommodate Jenny. He additionally famous that Jenny’s youngsters imagine in Santa Claus and Elf on the Shelf, which aren’t massive traditions in his household, so he doesn’t “understand how my youngsters or their cousins would react to all of that if it was introduced up.”
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The person provided a future answer to their drawback, suggesting that subsequent yr their mom may host Christmas at her dwelling. He additionally advised that Mike and Jenny may tackle internet hosting duties “if they’re nonetheless collectively.” However in the end, he mentioned, he doesn’t need to ban alcohol from his festivities or make his youngsters modify to new customs.
“It appears like a catastrophe ready to occur, so I feel Jenny and her youngsters ought to keep at dwelling,” he wrote, earlier than asking fellow Redditors if he is within the incorrect within the state of affairs.
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Within the feedback part, many individuals agreed that the OP was proper to ascertain his boundaries and never cave to Jenny’s calls for.
“Jenny appears high-maintenance and reeking of entitlement,” one individual wrote. “Her precedence, as a newcomer to this massive household, ought to be to get to know others, insert herself and her youngsters into what appears [like] a splendidly blended group of adults and youngsters.”
One other commenter added, “It is your home. This lady would not get to dictate you probably have alcohol or not. If she’s bought an issue with it then she would not must attend. Inform your brother you aren’t going to dumb down your Christmas to go well with his girlfriend. It was egocentric of him to ask.”
A 3rd individual echoed the earlier two feedback and advised that Jenny and her youngsters ought to ring within the vacation at their very own dwelling.
“It’s your home, your guidelines. You shouldn’t have to alter your life and everybody else for the sake of only one different [person],” they wrote. “If Jenny appears like your private home might not be applicable for her and her youngsters then she ought to keep the place she will be able to management the atmosphere for her household her method.”
